We’ve either been in one or two of them at one point of our lives. If we’re lucky we’ve learned after the first one, listened to our hearts and emotions and pressed the eject button and got the heck out of dodge. If you’ve been in one, you know the feeling I’m talking about. The initial honeymoon phase of a new relationship feels like bliss. Then something happens that brings the relationship crashing up against the rocks like a ships wreck. In my humble opinion if your living among the laws of nature, your true nature of love and well being, treating others (including yourself) with respect, nobody deserves a relationship that makes them feel sick. That’s why “they” call them toxic, because your body is literally having a chemical rejection from the other person. Being in harmony seems impossible and walking on eggshells becomes commonplace.
Time and time again we see people that stay in relationships too long because for whatever reason they think that the other individual will change. Often a two way street, couples becomes addicted to the fighting consisting of hurtful words and emotionally charged actions that would make anyone sick. I know because I’ve been that victim telling my friends that “it’s over!” Hearing the “why do you put up with it?” Anyway you look at it, if we are in a bad feeling relationship we have to look at the part we play. We allow it! We either chose to be treated with love and respect or either stepped on and controlled. When kids are involved it’s even harder to pull the rip cord. It’s even harder to see family and friends that don’t want to say the wrong thing or give advice out of pure love that can be taken the wrong way due to our clouded judgement.
You know that when we send negative thought waves through our mind and emotional guidance system, that it actually effects the nervous system? It’s true! The toxicity is actually a chemical releasing into the blood stream that can run our body down and make us sick. Whatever the case friends, we always need to listen to our heart. Arguments happen, it’s normal to have small tiffs then make up and forgive. But when emotionally negative charged words hurt people, there’s never a winner. If we’re going to get the most out of relationships we need to feed positive energy into LOVE and nurturing fulfilment. Why waste time? I’ve said this to myself countless times again when years ago I was in the middle of the tornado! The never ending tex’s that have hurtful words. Then the circle we loop to no ends of feeling even more depressed because we’re not strong enough to leave that person.
I’m giving a suggestion. If you don’t feel good, if your relationship becomes unhealthy, GET OUT! Nobody deserves to feel put down and made feel inferior. Life is meant to feel awesome most of the time! Yes we all have our ups and downs, but if your significant other isn’t making you feel great and bringing you into higher states of consciousness then we only have ourselves to blame. If it’s physically abusive then we all know there’s outlets that will help. There’s no time like right now to feel great about yourself. You are worthy, we all are, (if we act in a certain way) to be nourished with the elixir of romance and physical bonding. The physical is only one aspect that we need to look deeper at. It’s only instant gratification that usually isn’t enjoyed when we have resentments towards our lover. So remember, if you feel victimized, your are in the drivers seat and have the power to pull a U-turn. Make the most out of life and remember self love first . To be able to give your heart to another, we need to really come into alignment with our true nature first.
I Desire more harmony in relationships of all forms for humanity. For the people who have found it, I salute you.
Much Love , Ryan J Phillips..
I just got done a workout whilst blasting some awesome tunes on my iPod. Great healthy way to start my day. While I was on the treadmill feeding my subconscious mind with thoughts of health, prosperity and love I found myself wanting to run faster. I wanted to push myself more! Then I thought about the power of ones will! Will power, self determination and self-discipline are all key components to a life built on purpose. It leads one into the realm of the great. With those attributes anyone in this world can reach high stations in whatever endeavour they chose. It’s funny how when we really want something bad enough and believe it, how the momentum of energy shifts, propelling any individual towards the target. Will power separates the mediocre from the great. Greatness is something we all posses, but it needs to be brought out from within. 