At one time or another this is a human condition that effects the best of us. I realize now that I´ve taken a long look at the broader, inner part of myself and who I truly am that it has been the downfall of everything I wanted to accomplish and didn´t. We live in a world where marketing tactics in magazine ads, movies and commercials smack everyone in the face on the way we´re supposed to look, or what we´re supposed to drive ect…It´s especially tough for young people that are trying to make an identity for themselves in the world. So much emphasis is put on the way our bodies are supposed to look like. When people look in the mirror and see that they don´t match up so to speak to some of these magazine ads, people in music videos or sports stars we try and emulate it gives us a false sense of self and brings on insecurity in many cases. I find this to be even tougher for women. My heart goes out to women these days that feel they have to have the ¨PERFECT¨ body. I´m here to tell you that we are all perfect just they way we are.
They most amazing thing in the world is that there is only one you! And no amount of money in the world can replicate an exact model. I´m not coming down on marketing concepts that are trying to sell their product, but in most cases most of the models have had reinforcements made from air brushing and photo shops. Don´t get me wrong either when I say that outer beauty is stunning. But beauty shines through the inner energy of the person. It´s an amazing outlook on life and confidence that can overcome insecurity. If you are one of a huge percentage of people that suffer from this condition my advice is to stop and love yourself just the way you are. You are meant to live a life full of happiness and wear the clothes that make you comfortable. Heck, some of my favorite places to shop are vintage stores. If you are struggling with weight issues or some other forms of physical ailment it´s important to block out negativity and opinions.
I know a lot of times insecurity stems from when we were kids. Yep, kids can be cruel sometimes alright! That’s why it´s important to teach our kids that everyone is different for a reason and we all bring different talents, ideas and beauty in all kinds of forms into the world. That´s what makes living life so exciting. I love meeting people from all over the world and trying to understand their culture and background. It´s my desire that this world will be one free of judgment and racism one day and we can all unite harmoniously and co create with others on a positive scale. I don´t think that’s far off if we all strive to be the best we can be. That means we need to treat every human being we come across the same as we expect to be treated. I don´t know about you, but I love making others feel good because seeing someone happy bounces right back on me and gives me immense pleasure.
Let´s talk about how to overcome insecurity. My opinion is that self confidence can be tough to oneself. If someone is looking down on you it´s them that has the issue within themselves. It´s really easy to flip the switches on that, no matter how much that person hurts you to send them love through your heart because they are the ones that are sick unfortunately. Hold your head high when you walk into a room . Not snobby or cocky, Christ that was me a few years back at times and it got me no where and made me feel empty. Smile when you walk into a room and let your inner energy do the talking. You can literally send out good vibrations through your positive thoughts that will impact people that surround you. Freedom to be yourself is something that is every ones right on this planet, and as long as your not hurting anyone and bringing joy to others by being you, it´s you that will reap the rewards. I know the work place can be full of gossip and drama at times. Rising above all that and not feeding into the bullshit will set you apart from others and people of clout will notice that your action speaks louder than words.
There´s a lot of really positive music out there these days that inspire people to let go of insecurities, Lady Gaga and Katy Perry to name a few. And for those of you that are gay and having a tough time with it and expressing who you really are, let loose and be you. I have a lot of amazing gay friends that are some of the most beautiful sensitive beings I´ve ever met. We are all people in this world, so no matter how much money we have, what we look like or what occupation we hold, the moment we all unite as one and let go of judgments this world will be even more beautiful.
LOVE YOURSELF JUST THE WAY YOU ARE
RYAN
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Staying Positive
A good friend of mine asked me to touch on this subject and its actually a coincidence that I´ve had to put some of the ¨staying positive¨ principles to work this morning. Late last night I was over at my good friend Chad’s sister’s home in Ibiza. Her husband owns a hotel here and because their living arrangements with a young baby and minimal space I had to stay at the hotel Es Vive which is quite beautiful. It´s also a chance for me to get quiet and focus on reading and writing and morning meditation. I have my suitcase at the house because I´m doing all my laundry there so when I left last night in a cab I only took my toiletry bag and satchel. In the toiletry bag I had a fair amount of cash that was to last me for the remainder of my trip and a watch in the side pocket that meant an awful lot to me. I was pretty tired after a great day and awesome workout. Chad and I walked about 3 miles to the really cool old port town of Ibiza for dinner and to look at some of the shops. It was a great experience, the town was buzzing with people of all ages, this isn´t just a party island.
When we got back to the house we had a quick swim before I jumped into a cab en route to the hotel, I guess I was half out of it and obviously wasn´t paying attention because I left my toiletry case in the cab. I didn´t realize until about 15 minutes later when I was in the room that I left the toiletry bag in the cab. A rush of panic overcame me and I ran down to the reception to get the lady at the front desk to try and help me. I kept telling myself ¨deep breaths Ry!¨ But it wasn´t easy, all i could pray for is that either the next passengers in the cab or the driver himself was honest and would do the right thing. After over an hour of phone calls, being put on hold for a lot of the time, all four cab companies said there was no sign of it in any of the cabs or the lost and found. In that time I called my folks and some good friends back home that calmed me down to some degree. I had to practice a lot of self control as well.
At this point there was nothing I could do but stay positive. Acceptance is something that I´ve worked on hard for a while now, and I had to be a realist and understand that it was highly unlikely that I was ever going to see the case again. It´s funny because a few years back I would have been in hysterics. But a sense of calm took over my mind and body and I started looking at the sunny side of the situation and the lesson I was being tough in the moment. The first thing I thanked god for was the fact that I was safe, I have my health and of all the people I talked to said they would help me in any way they could. Thank god I have my passport and credit cards in my satchel, and obviously it was the universe telling me ¨Ry you need to pay more attention¨ Shit, what a bummer, but it happened for a reason. I just really hope whoever got that case and money can use it for some good. maybe the driver is going through a tough time, who knows. amidst the drama I looked at all the positives and tried to find the humor in it. I talked to my dad and we both agreed there’s people out there way worse off.
I´m on a beautiful island in Spain and there’s people dying in hospitals, wars being fought and people in prison! I blocked out the negative aspects of the situation and read myself to sleep. When I shut my eyes I started running off the things in life that I´m most grateful for. Number one on my list is always sound health and a positive state of mind that I choose to have. Yes there’s a lot of negatives in the world these days, but the positives outweigh them in a big way. If an individual really wants to practice staying positive most of the time just write out was your grateful for and know that adversities are all part of life that are meant to teach us lessons. It´s how we handle these adversities that makes us stronger and know that it´s only temporary. Everything in life is temporary if you think about it. And in the material world things get lost sometimes. I´m so happy this morning as I write this because I handled it with dignity and humility.
What I want to say to you is that when you´re on a negative vibration there’s no way you can be on a positive at the same time. The human brain is like a two way radio which is a broadcasting and receiving station for thought. whatever thought you send out into the ether it is brought back to you in like form that the individual puts out. And depending on the momentum of the energy stream and power of the chosen thought the physical manifestation will resemble that which one is thinking. That’s just how it works! We all have times of joy and empowerment in our lives and we can bring more of that into our life experience by guiding and directing our thought patterns in the right direction. Focus is very important and a desire or wanting to be positive in life is a must. The expansion of the universe in inevitable and it´s like the old saying goes ¨whatever we resist will persist¨. Choose smiles and laughter! Try and bring the best out of others because that in turn will help you be more positive and happy.
I know it´s tough when there’s a sick person or loss in a family. Could be a family pet or your house being broken into, the list goes on. But it´s you that has the power to change the way you look at situations and things and people. If you look at everyone for the good they have to offer with authenticity,in return in most cases that comes back to you. You get out of life what you give. Just like when you feed the body with healthy food, in return you get more energy and vitality. There is no source of sickness unless we attract it and think it into our lives. Remember everything starts with a thought, and thoughts do become things. Play with the law of attraction and think good thoughts in the moment often!
Positively yours in health and happiness
Ryan
Getting Motivated
MOTIVATION! this is a topic that I´m happy to touch on. It was a request made by an amazing person in my life that is aspiring to become a singer. Well here it goes…There´s so many motivating factors that make humans tick and want to get the most out of life. It´s the STAYING motivated factor that is tough for a lot of people these days. Firstly whatever it is that the individual is focused on must be fixated in the mind as a GOAL! Setting goals are important. For whatever dream the individual wants to achieve it must be definite! The dream must be turned into a burning desire. The dominating thoughts that the individual ¨thinks¨will most definitely start forming in the physical reality that surrounds them. The key words here are DESIRE and BELIEF! I´ve touched before on the power of writing exactly what one wants on paper. I suggest writing your dreams and goals down and place them close to you where they can be seen and read a lot of the time. Now here’s the important part! There’s always going to be negative influences that surround us, people that will try and sway you. My advice is that no dream is ever too big! Getting sufficient rest at night and keeping your body and mind clear of the negatives is key to reaching goals. Meditation has also been proven to awakening people to their life purpose so give that a shot and when in the state of meditation it´s important that you really focus on your breath and visualize yourself already in possession of the GOAL at hand. It´s important also to ask yourself why you want what you want and for what reasons. A lot of people these days are motivated by money and sex. Hey! that’s totally OK as long as your not hurting anyone in process.
I find that good music motivates me and also when I listen to awesome tunes I can literally picture my life like a movie doing all the things that mean the most to me. If you can start your mornings off with a walk throw the ipod on and see yourself where you want to be. I love early mornings when there’s hardly anyone outside and the roads aren’t too busy. Everyday is a new day to start fresh no matter where you are. I have to be straight with you guys, I never even completed a book in high school. For some reason I could never stay focused and didn´t believe that books held and power or significance in life. Truth be known there’s so many books that I use as motivating factors that connect me to my Source. There are so many inspirational books that were written to inspire people to do great things that want the best out of life. If you come to my house you´ll see that I keep a lot of my favorite books out in the open because that forces me to pick them up often and take in valuable information that my mind needs to grow.
Great books of our time and in our past were written by the author in most cases with the purpose of making the earth we live in a better place. For those of you that aren’t big readers books can now be downloaded and listened too. Set daily, weekly, monthly and yearly goals. And remember that you really have all the answers within. Watching great movies is also key. Think of the people that made them. They made them to inspire humans to do great things with their time. Don´t waste time on over thinking, if you want something bad enough there’s nothing that should stand in your way NOTHING! My motivating factor for writing is you the reader. I want with all my heart to give value to others that will make them want the best life we all deserve. Don´t be afraid to ask lots of questions to people that have succeeded at the goal you desire to attain. Be a good listener and try new things. We live in such an amazing time where there’s so much information available to us. All it takes is some awareness and you´ll realize that certain people are placed in your life for a reason. Love where you are right now because it´s perfect.
It´s important to dig deep and work smartly towards your goal. If you truly believe it and others have done it the universe has the adequate means to make it happen for you. We´re all made from the same thing so if it can happen for one person it can happen for you, don´t ever give up friends.
Here’s a few books I personally recommend:
Ask and its Given – Ester and Jerry Hicks
Think and grow Rich -Napoleon Hill
The Master key to Riches-Napleon Hill
The Power of Now- Ekert Tolle
A New Earth-Eckhart Tolle
The Secret -Rohnda Bryne
Spiritual Growth-Sanaya Rayman
Love Ryan
July 30th Update
Just Be Yourself
Ok boys and girls this is something I find really important in life that makes things a little easier to go with the flow and be happy. First just remember there’s only one you! How amazing is that? Well if you thought of all the circumstances the universe lined up just to make sure your precious soul was here it would drive you bananas. You mean a lot and and play an important role in the expansion of the universe weather you know it or not. I find it sad to see men and women these days that try and be someone there not. The really amazing people all throughout history have always been leaders,not followers. I know I respect a person that comes off as authentic and real rather than arrogant and obnoxious. Guess what? That was me at times. It wasn’t who I truly was as a person, I was just insecure and usually a few sociables deep if ya know what I mean… emulating awesome people with positive energy is a cool thing to do. A real energetic laid back personality is contagious and attracts like minded people that are on the same vibe. Remember nobody likes a showoff. I find an authentic smile goes a long way with people as well and makes you more approachable. Eye contact is another thing that is big in my books, and who doesn’t like a person that is confident and sure of oneself. Wear what you want to wear and hold your head high. Wear clothes that are a reflection of your personality because first impressions go a long way. Love who you are and expect the best in life while respecting nature and others and a new world will unfold in front of you….Watch!
Stay Cool
Ryan Phillips
Letting go of Anger
I had an old friend ask me today about trying to get onto a positive outlook in life after a separation with his wife. My heart goes out to him and many other single parents that are in the same situation. I know first hand from experience especially when kids are in the mix as well. Strong emotions can often run wild on us in times when the letting go process can seem unbearable. Many tears came my way and I didn’t deal with my situation that well because I didn’t grasp the way the universe worked at that time in my life. My judgement and my ego got in the way of the healing process and I became a heavy drinker to numb the pain. I know for me alcohol is never the answer no matter how bad the problems may be.
Making the kids priority is number one if they are involved. Knowing that the place you are in is teaching you a lot about yourself. Send love to your emotions with closed eyes and picture amazing times in life ahead. Think of all the adversities you’ve been through along the journey and every one had the seed of an equal benefit or opportunity for growth on the other side of it. Anger is one of the worst things that can creep into ones life when challenged with these problems.
My advice is to spend at least 10 minutes a day with closed eyes in a sort of meditation and take deep breaths. Imagine how good your life can be if you deal with it with self control. I know it can be hard. But remember that everything in life is only temporary, accept the good times in all relationships and enjoy them.
The more we come to grips with the fact that “Your not always in control” things will have a funny way of working themselves out. Remember that the one thing we do have, is complete control over letting either positive or negative thoughts dominate our minds. The conscious mind will feed on either negative or positive and with enough emotion pass it on to the subconscious where we create our realities. So try and let go of the anger and know it’s harmful for not only your well being but all that surround you. Wake up grateful for what you do have. Time will heal all wounds friends.
My thoughts are with you all.
Ryan Phillips
Book update for July 24th, 2011
The task of writing my book so far to date has been a roller coaster of emotions. It obviously brings back so many amazing memories. It’s funny how writing about things that happened in your past can bring the moments back like they just happened. I’m learning a lot about myself through the writing of the book as well. I see with more clarity how the choices we make today and in the moment determine our future in a perfect way that the universe intended. To date, I’m well over half way done. I’m leaving this tuesday to travel parts of europe to work on it. I love getting up early and really getting into the zone with no distractions. I find that’s a time where a lot of creativity comes to mind.
While writing the book I find joy in seeing how my life has unfolded. Everything makes sense on a much deeper level. I’m at the point of the book which led me to losing my freedom and being incarcerated. That brings back strong emotions but at the same time gives me so much to be thankful for, especially my strong network of family and friends. The book is what started the whole concept of Return to Happiness, but the project has taken on a life of it’s own through filming others and searching for more meaning and success in life. I look forward to keep writing and updating you on the project. The book will be out late 2012.
Ryan Phillips
Friendship
Today I awoke at 5am to a beautiful July day, I thought about going back to sleep for another hour or so….But something inside me excited me to get up and live this day to the fullest of my capacity to do so! After a killer workout at the gym and a light breakfast I decided to take advantage of the West Vancouver seawall. It was just after 7am when I started my journey and there was quite a few people on the seawall that obviously had the same intention.
I recognized some familiar faces and gave them a smile and hello. I stopped for a minute and had a short conversation with a man in his 50″s who was smiling ear to ear with positive energy, i think a lot of it had to do with the birth of a sunny day finally. Along the seawall i saw a few otters and some cranes, seagulls were flying in the breeze. I felt at one with nature and so blessed to be in the moment. I started to think about all the friendships I’ve made along the way in my life. Today my inner circle of friends is pretty small, you guys and girls know who you are and I love you unconditionally. Friendship is a word that i don’t take lightly. I cherish my friends like brothers and sisters. I think it’s so very important to be honest and kind to our friends and respect whatever they do in life. It’s important to be equally happy for the success of friends as it is for ones personal triumphs in life.
Loyalty and integrity goes a long way, and it’s so very important to keep things real with relationships free of gossip and envy. As we grow older in this world we’ll have many different people come in and out of our lives. Just remember that every being that crosses your path is for a reason. Enjoy the precious moments you get to spend with your friends. Always be there to lend an ear for support and look out for the greater good for the well being of others. Life is truly amazing when you see it for all it’s beauty. Thank you to all my friends along the way that have made me want to strive to do even better deeds, I cherish and love you all
Your friend Ryan Phillips
Web Series News July 22nd 2011
We’ve been shooting nearly everyday for our new Return to Happiness web series. This project has taken on a lot of momentum and we believe the world is in a change right now. There is a birth of a new consciousness and new energies are being brought the the surface. Through our videos we intend to profile great people that all have one goal in mind; to make this world a better place.
During the month of August, we will be taking a tour of Europe to connect with different cultures and people. We look forward to you tuning in to experience the adventure with us. Along the journey, I will also be working on my book, Return to Happiness, which is scheduled for release summer 2012.
We plan to release a new episode every week. So stay tuned!
Finding the Right One
I’ve been in my fair share of toxic relationships a long the way that’s for sure. So heres my cheap advice for the day. If your going to be in a relationship that you consider healthy and beneficial to your own well being, try and attract a partner that brings out the very best in you. Someone who sees your true beauty inside and out. I know it’s hard to keep your hands off each other at the start of something new, but try and take it slow and respect the other as a great friend too. You can tell a lot about people by the way their friends treat them. I’m a full advocate at spontanious things to do that keeps it fresh and fun. It should be effortless when the right person comes into your life.
If things start going poorly early in the relationship these are bad signs and a good reason to exit the relationship early and maturely. How many times do we hear our friends complaining about their long drawn out break ups? I know I hear it a lot. If thing aren’t working, move on and the right person will find you when your least expecting it.
Another good way to attract your soulmate is to write down what you really want out of a relationship. Get down to the nitty gritty and be specific. The universe is like a well stocked kitchen and you always get what you ask and visualize. Just make sure to really feel good while writing and thinking. I believe we all deserve to be happy and in awesome relationships. There’s nothing more exciting and fulfilling than love. Be true and honest to yourself and give off good vibes and watch what happens.
MUCH LOVE,
Ryan Phillips