With the holiday season coming to an end and all the great parties fizzling out except for the Big New Years bash, many of us have goals in mind for the new year. It’s funny because at the end of every year I always get into conversations with people on how to more effectively reach their goals in life. Lets face it, life is busy these days and it’s tough taking the time for ourselves which we so rightly deserve to make positive changes in health and finances. If it’s better health you desire, it will be beneficial to make a goal of getting some physical exercise at least three times a week. This doesn’t mean you need to get a gym pass and push the limits like a lot of extreme peopleI know, me being one of them. But going for walks around the your neighbourhood is a start, and remember a healthy diet is eighty percent of the battle towards a healthy vibrant body. and lets face it, when we see a more fit you in the mirror we feel more secure and confident.
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Give to the right people
Ever since I was a youngster I always rooted for the “underdog”. I clear as day remember always picking the least talented boy/girl in elementary school sports. I believe that it was bread in us as from the time we were born to be desired and wanted in life. Recently I had a some adversity with business that impacted me in a somewhat negative way. But since the episode I’ve been able to focus on transmuting the setback into a benefit that has brought me a life lesson.
I was introduced to an individual not so long ago from a life long friend. Upon my first encounter with this person I saw that he was very intelligent and possessed a lot of knowledge when it came to technical aspects of business. He had all the key components to add immense value to my company. I was shocked when I found out that he was lacking capital and was in major debt. But l like not to judge by what person has in material form, but for what a man can bring to the table in specialized knowledge and integrity. He was polite and very keen on a project that was inspiring and uplifting.
After being around this individual for some weeks I noticed that he lacked the drive and personal initiative that makes most people successful. Being a people pleaser by nature and always one to give second chances I learned that he suffered from laziness and work ethic. I had many uplifting talks with the individual about our endeavours and he always seemed renewed and energized after our talks and would be good for a few days. I think it’s very important when you are building a company or have a definite goal in mind that you choose the people of your business alliance very selectively . Too many people these days have forgotten the concept that we need to GIVE before we receive!
I took the individual for a walk and had a very stern talk , while at the same time maintaining my self control. I gave him one last chance and hoped he would come around. unfortunately he didn’t. It’s been my observation that we need to want to help ourselves before any changes start becoming apparent. I’ve also noticed that the people who don’t ask for help and look for opportunities are the ones that don’t last on the bottom for long. It was reiteration to me that so many people these days tend to play the victim role, as if life owes them something. Instead of taking the bull by the horns and going after their coveted dreams.
I met a few really good people through this person, and for that I am truly grateful. Not only that I’ve realized that it’s made me want to strive to be even better myself and give only to people who truly deserve it and that bring great work ethic, honesty and positive aspects to the table.
Yours in friendship Ryan Phillips.
Merry Christmas friends
Another Christmas is here friends, almost surreal when you think about how fast time actually flies these days. I sincerely apologize for not writing as of late. I’ve been dealing with some personal issues that I’ve had to meet face on. But that’s another story. I vow to be on top of daily blogs and videos in the new year. I’m in the midst of creating a new reality travel show called “ENERGY TRAVELLER” in 2012. I look forward to connecting with my friends all over the world and showing them all this world has to offer. Breathtaking landscapes, wild night life, sports,giving and just everything that brings happiness and adventure to peoples lives.
Happiness Lies Within
“It is not the money that makes you rich but the master creation of mind that let the riches unwind” quoted by Katherine Quigley. Meaning, through obtaining happiness within you can manifest all riches you desire and live a magical life. So what is happiness? Happiness is a choice you have to make, a personal journey where you look deep within and find the real you, your higher self. It is immense joy, positive emotions that inspire, move, guide and manifest all good into your reality. Through our past experiences and habit forming patterns we often get led astray, molded into a certain way of thinking, believing that what currently is our reality is what we have to settle for. Well, that is not the truth. All beings deserve and desire happiness, and all can have as we are light beings, we are love. The natural state of our being is happiness. Think about this, when in a state of negative emotion its like swimming upstream, a struggle, tiring fight, drains all energy. Negative emotion is not a natural state of being, you are restricting your connection to source energy. When in a state of positive emotion you are swimming downstream, with ease, speed, and endless energy. You are allowing freely the connection to source energy. To obtain happiness your work is to get into alignment with your inner being. You must become aware of your thoughts as your thoughts are your point of attraction. Negative thoughts attract negative into our physical experience, while positive thoughts attract positive into our physical experience. I know this may seem a little overwhelming at first but with practice through reading spiritual books, meditation, writing and surrounding yourself with positive people your current reality can and will change for the better. And guys, don’t be too hard on yourself, enjoy the journey of finding who you truly are cause its the journey thats the best part. Love and Light, Ryan Phillips.
You Have The Choice On How To Deal With Adversity
This is a very true and powerful saying. Everyone of us in our lifetime has faced a failure, a setback, a heartache that challenges us either physically, emotionally, or both. Our connection to source energy can then be tested and sometimes a struggle to stay positive and focused on the good. First of all guys, this is normal, being creatures of habit and when facing a troubled situation we have a tendency to be hit with negative emotions all at once. The first and most important thing we need to do is fully accept the situation for what it is, no matter how big or small it may seem. Now you are probably thinking how on earth am i supposed to do that! Well, I suggest getting yourself a notebook or journal where you can write down things. Writing has more of an impact on seeing changes faster. At the top of the page write down “I Appreciate” underneath write down all the things that you are grateful for in your life. This might be a little tough at first but there is always something to be thankful for, it could be anything from a favorite song that makes you happy to amazing friends that are there to support and give love. The purpose of this process is to raise your vibration onto a higher frequency . Another great process is meditation , while in a state of focusing on your breathing you are opening up a connection to source energy, your higher power. You cannot focus on thoughts while focused on your breathing and this automatically allows a higher vibration. One of my favorite tools is writing down your dreams and desires as if you already have them. For example if you want to become a professional dancer, in your journal you would write something like this “I am so grateful to be able to dance for millions of people to see, tour with Madonna and see all the beautiful places this world has to offer.” Again this may be a little tough at the beginning but in time your dominant thoughts will be based on what you write, eventually manifesting what you desire into the physical. The reason for doing these processes is that eventually with practice and perseverance the negative emotions will be transformed into positive emotions, you will then be manifesting only good and positive into your physical experience. And remember guys “Every adversity carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit” quoted by Napoleon Hill. Accept what is, focus on the positive and look forward to what is to come. Love and Light, Ryan Phillips
Law of Attraction
The Law of Attraction is the most powerful law in the universe. I like to think of it as a universal manager that makes sure all thoughts match up. The law is defined as ” that which is like unto itself is drawn”. Every thought vibrates and is on a frequency. The human brain can be compared to a radio transmitter that is a broadcasting and receiving center for thought. You get what you think about no matter what. Thoughts are energy that vibrate, there’s no way a person can be on a positive and negative frequency at the same time. So if you want to manifest what you want in life you just have to think and “feel” what it is you desire. If you pay attention to what you are thinking about weather it be positive or negative you will see that when you are thinking good thoughts, other good thoughts will follow. That’s why it’s very important to make the decision to feel as good as you can and think about only what you want in life. And ultimately the universe will manifest what you desire.
Italy, Rome and Cinque Terre
Spain was awesome, connected with some amazing people that made my experience one to remember. It doesn’t matter where you go in the world we as human beings may speak different languages and have different traditions but we are all truly connected in so many ways. I love seeing people laugh and dance to good music and I’ve been so blessed on this tour to have been touched by the lives of people on the same vibration. In Barcelona my friend Brian opened up his house and was the perfect host. He’s such good spirit and his love for orange juice kept me and my friends with an abundance of vitamin C. Brian I’m so grateful for meeting you and for your authenticity. It was a smooth flight to Rome which is so rich in history and what can I say about the food. But two days there was enough as the crowds can be a little overwhelming. Next stop Cinque Terre, arrived here yesterday Known to North Americans as the 5 villages. It was a 4 hour train ride here and we met some other Canadians that were traveling throughout Europe as well. It’s that time of year where everywhere around Europe is busy with people from all over the world.
We arrived in the last little town of Cinque Terre , Monterosso at just after 5pm and it was jammed, A little luck was on our side as we got the last room available. We dined at a friends restaurant that I met 10 months ago his name is Ciak. His in his 70s and has been living here since he was a small boy. He cooked his famous seafood pasta and it was to die for. After dinner we did some filming around the tiny town and it was so much fun to connect with people of all ages. It’s funny how much kids adore the camera.
So much positive energy is buzzing in this town. We met a group of really nice girls from California and a couple from Montreal that all were staying at our hotel. I just wanted to give all you guys an update and know that I’m thinking of all of you and it’s you guys that drive and inspire me to be the best person I can be. I have to keep this one short as I’m on the move and have to catch a boat in a few hours.
Talk soon friends Ryan
Judgement and Gossip
If the world we live in could free itself of some of the judgements we place on people, world issues and religion, it would be an environment that we could feel more free to be our true selves. We’ve all been guilty of these traits at certain times in our lives and it’s usually when things aren’t going as we want them to be. Judgeing people on a surface level is very sad actually beacuse in doing so, we are actually mirrioring those same judgements within ourselves. Take me for an example, I have some fairly large tattoo’s, now at first glance without knowing what those tats represent an individual might assume me to be a certain way. I’ve had many people once they see what my tattoo’s represent which are love and happiness, say “wow Ryan your nothing like the person we percieved you to be when I first saw you.”
Just imagine how many times some of us have passed judgement on others and in turn maybe missed a great chance to connect with someone really special. That’s why I find so many people have a guard or wall that they put up because they feel they have to project a certain image to society and our peers. When I was younger in my teens and into my late twenties I was always acting off trying to make an identity for myself. Alot of it had to do with materialism, such as having nice cars and expensive clothes. I felt it made me more of a man and more attractive to women if I showed my success on a surface level. I can’t dwell on the past but I was withholding from the world my true self, which is just a normal guy that desires love and great relationships with people. Don’t get me wrong, it’s more than ok to desire and have really nice material things in life that we can enjoy and share with others. But showing off and defining yourself through “things” is something that usually leaves a person in conflict with the true self. That’s the ego inside or inner voice that says we have to be a certain way to be accepted.
Gossip is pure poison, I try and catch myself everytime I feel the need to make a negitive coment about someone when their not around. Also when someone is talking about another they usually are disatisfied with their own lives so they feel the need to pick appart others. It’s important to see all people as constant works in progress. We all make so called mistakes, even the biggest stars that are in the public eye get ridiculed by the media and slammed for thier actions. In most cases we don’t even know the full story. Try focussing on being the best you can, and controling only your thoughts. If you don’t have anything nice to say about someone refrain and concentrate on the positive aspects of that person. I used to listen to a lot of gossip in my life and feed into it. Which in turn brought only more gossip into my life. Now I say ” can we not talk about others” If one of my friends or associates has something negitive to say about someone else. It’s the people that are talking poorly about others that you have to worry about the most. if they are making coments of a negitive nature about someone behind their back, what are they saying about you when your not around. It’s something we can all be concious about and in turn better our lives and the lives of everyone that comes into contact with us.
We don’t know the reasons why people are acting a certain way. They could be sick or had a big fight with a spouse, maybe their kids are acting off and high emotions are making them really unhappy. So be easy on yourself and others and enjoy that which is good within, make an effort to not react and jugde and see the improovement unfold in your life. For all you parents out there it’s important to instill these values to our children, kids are like sponges and pick up on the traits of their parents. My daughter Sadie is a very special little girl, at the age of 12 she is seeing life in a whole new way. It’s very exciting to see her for the beautiful person she is inside and out. I have to give her mother Andi so much of the credit, as we don’t have the ideal situation. Andi and Sadie live thousands of miles away from me in Kansas. But we both love and care for our little angel more than anything in the world. We only want the best for her and it shows. She has awesome manners and loves everyone for who they are. I’m so proud of her and her mom. We can learn a lot from our kids as well. Life is fun, and it’s what we make of it.
Peace Ry.
Let Your Feelings Guide You
One of the amazing things that human beings have been blessed with is an inner guidence system called our emotions or feelings. How many times through the course of our lives have we heard the phrase “go with your gut” or ” I have a gut feeling” I’m sure there’s more. Well in most cases if we look back on situatins that had lack of better judgement, the gut was always right. I think it’s a very important decision to let your emotions be your guide. If it doesn’t “feel” good then that is your inner being throwing up warning signs that it most likely it’s a good idea to take a step back an reavaluate the situation your in whatever that may be. How many times have we been torn by two groups of people to go either one way or another and chose the wrong way and paid dearly for it? Well I’m one of those guys that always has to learn the hard way. But If I had payed more attention to the way my emotions felt I knew I had the right decision inside me all along. It comes down to the fact of not being easily persuaded by others that don’t always have your best interests in mind. A lot of people in the business world are great salesman and talkers that put themselves ahead of your personal well being knowing fully their taking advantage of you. By taking the time to pay attention to the way you feel before making quick decisions in relationships and business you will understand the power in feeling good in the moment. You will have more confidence and bring on better leadership qualities that good people will respect and admire. If it feels really good that’s a good sign to go with the flow but watch for people that can be manipultive and want your service for their benifit only. That’s why it’s so important to associate with good people.
One Night Stands
I´ve been in Ibiza Spain now for a week and I was very blessed to meet so many amazing people from all over the world, the vibe was awesome and it´s recognized as the biggest party destination in the world with music to die for. I felt very spiritually connected as the sound vibrations rushed through my being. One of the best dj´s I heard was at party at a supper club called Novum Ibiza. His name was Victor Simonelli. He´s from New York and he has amazing talent that really touched my inner spirit. The fact that I had some really great conversation with him and saw how much class he had made my respect for him multiply. Over the course of the week it was obviously apparent that sex was on the mind of the majority of people as well. How could this fact be denied with all the sexy house music and beautiful people on the island. If you were coming here for sex it was easily available.
I was an on looker this time around and didn´t partake in any sexual encounters. In the past I´ve had my fair share of one night stands and I´m not coming down on people that partake in that experience. But my personal experience with the one night stand is usually one that left me feeling quite empty and awkward after the deed had been done! now there’s a lot of people that meet their soul mate that day or night and have the most amazing sexual experience where the connection is blossomed into a long term relationship or even marriage. For me I´ve found that in giving it some time after meeting a women is what makes it all worth while. Connecting on a soul level is something that I find both invigorating and powerful at the same time. So if any of my old hockey teamates are reading this, Yeah it´s the same Ryan I´ve just changed my views a bit. I actually get off on stimulating conversation and if that leads into physical escalation great, but as far as getting down and dirty I´m a ¨waiter¨ now.
I think it´s a special thing to respect your body and soul. And having a mutual respect for the opposite sex is gives you a better outlook on what´s to come. If the chemistry is there then by all means you folks have my blessings. But rushing into things and using someone for the moment and a quick orgasm could screw up the possibilities for something really special in the future. At the end of the day we are animals and we´re placed on this planet to pro create and make babies, it´s programed into our genetic code. It´s no secret that most one nighters happen on nights when booze and drugs are in the mix and the mind is distorted. I´ve found myself in situations in the past where I´ve woken up beside a girl the next morning fully knowing that we went all the way with all forms of clouded judgment in the way. Sex is a beautiful thing and one of the most powerful emotions known to man, but it´s meant to be felt. Theres nothing better than sex with someone you care about where both people know whats going on and can remember the great experience.
I don´t know how many times I´ve heard it from male and female friends ¨I´m such an idiot, I slept with him or her¨ And then the fact is in most cases they never talk again. But hey if that’s what your into I´m only giving my opinion from years of experience. And if your going to get down, for heavens sake boys make sure you wrap up and be safe for the sake of both individuals. I´m just looking out for all you guys and want you to all love yourself. I know it´s tough boys when the head between your legs can be real loud and do a lot of talking. And the sad reality is that people like to run their mouths and talk. It sucks when you hear about people being labeled a ¨slut¨ or a ¨whore¨. So do what you feel is right in your heart and enjoy life and try and respect the beauty inside and out.
All the very best in sex
Ryan