Category: Relationships and Sex

Letting go of Anger

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I had an old friend ask me today about trying to get onto a positive outlook in life after a separation with his wife. My heart goes out to him and many other single parents that are in the same situation. I know first hand from experience especially when kids are in the mix as well. Strong emotions can often run wild on us in times when the letting go process can seem unbearable. Many tears came my way and I didn’t deal with my situation that well because I didn’t grasp the way the universe worked at that time in my life. My judgement and my ego got in the way of the healing process and I became a heavy drinker to numb the pain. I know for me alcohol is never the answer no matter how bad the problems may be. 

Making the kids priority is number one if they are involved. Knowing that the place you are in is teaching you a lot about yourself. Send love to your emotions with closed eyes and picture amazing times in life ahead. Think of all the adversities you’ve been through along the journey and every one had the seed of an equal benefit or opportunity for growth on the other side of it. Anger is one of the worst things that can creep into ones life when challenged with these problems. 
My advice is to spend at least 10 minutes a day with closed eyes in a sort of meditation and take deep breaths. Imagine how good your life can be if you deal with it with self control. I know it can be hard. But remember that everything in life is only temporary, accept the good times in all relationships and enjoy them.
 The more we come to grips with the fact that “Your not always in control” things will have a funny way of working themselves out. Remember that the one thing we do have, is complete control over letting either positive or negative thoughts dominate our minds. The conscious mind will feed on either negative or positive and with enough emotion pass it on to the subconscious where we create our realities. So try and let go of the anger and know it’s harmful for not only your well being but all that surround you. Wake up grateful for what you do have. Time will heal all wounds friends.
My thoughts are with you all.
Ryan Phillips

Friendship

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Today I awoke at 5am to a beautiful July day, I thought about going back to sleep for another hour or so….But something inside me excited me to get up and live this day to the fullest of my capacity to do so! After a killer workout at the gym and a light breakfast I decided to take advantage of the West Vancouver seawall. It was just after 7am when I started my journey and there was quite a few people on the seawall that obviously had the same intention.

I recognized some familiar faces and gave them a smile and hello. I stopped for a minute and had a short conversation with a man in his 50″s who was smiling ear to ear with positive energy, i think a lot of it had to do with the birth of a sunny day finally. Along the seawall i saw a few otters and some cranes, seagulls were flying in the breeze. I felt at one with nature and so blessed to be in the moment. I started to think about all the friendships I’ve made along the way in my life. Today my inner circle of friends is pretty small, you guys and girls know who you are and I love you unconditionally. Friendship is a word that i don’t take lightly. I cherish my friends like brothers and sisters. I think it’s so very important to be honest and kind to our friends and respect whatever they do in life. It’s important to be equally happy for the success of friends as it is for ones personal triumphs in life.

Loyalty and integrity goes a long way, and it’s so very important to keep things real with relationships free of gossip and envy. As we grow older in this world we’ll have many different people come in and out of our lives. Just remember that every being that crosses your path is for a reason. Enjoy the precious moments you get to spend with your friends. Always be there to lend an ear for support and look out for the greater good for the well being of others. Life is truly amazing when you see it for all it’s beauty. Thank you to all my friends along the way that have made me want to strive to do even better deeds, I cherish and love you all

Your friend Ryan Phillips

Finding the Right One

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I’ve been in my fair share of toxic relationships a long the way that’s for sure. So heres my cheap advice for the day. If your going to be in a relationship that you consider healthy and beneficial to your own well being, try and attract a partner that brings out the very best in you. Someone who sees your true beauty inside and out. I know it’s hard to keep your hands off each other at the start of something new, but try and take it slow and respect the other as a great friend too. You can tell a lot about people by the way their friends treat them. I’m a full advocate at spontanious things to do that keeps it fresh and fun. It should be effortless when the right person comes into your life.

If things start going poorly early in the relationship these are bad signs and a good reason to exit the relationship early and maturely. How many times do we hear our friends complaining about their long drawn out break ups? I know I hear it a lot. If thing aren’t working, move on and the right person will find you when your least expecting it.

Another good way to attract your soulmate is to write down what you really want out of a relationship. Get down to the nitty gritty and be specific. The universe is like a well stocked kitchen and you always get what you ask and visualize. Just make sure to really feel good while writing and thinking. I believe we all deserve to be happy and in awesome relationships. There’s nothing more exciting and fulfilling than love. Be true and honest to yourself and give off good vibes and watch what happens.

 MUCH LOVE,

 Ryan Phillips