I had an old friend ask me today about trying to get onto a positive outlook in life after a separation with his wife. My heart goes out to him and many other single parents that are in the same situation. I know first hand from experience especially when kids are in the mix as well. Strong emotions can often run wild on us in times when the letting go process can seem unbearable. Many tears came my way and I didn’t deal with my situation that well because I didn’t grasp the way the universe worked at that time in my life. My judgement and my ego got in the way of the healing process and I became a heavy drinker to numb the pain. I know for me alcohol is never the answer no matter how bad the problems may be.
Making the kids priority is number one if they are involved. Knowing that the place you are in is teaching you a lot about yourself. Send love to your emotions with closed eyes and picture amazing times in life ahead. Think of all the adversities you’ve been through along the journey and every one had the seed of an equal benefit or opportunity for growth on the other side of it. Anger is one of the worst things that can creep into ones life when challenged with these problems.
My advice is to spend at least 10 minutes a day with closed eyes in a sort of meditation and take deep breaths. Imagine how good your life can be if you deal with it with self control. I know it can be hard. But remember that everything in life is only temporary, accept the good times in all relationships and enjoy them.
The more we come to grips with the fact that “Your not always in control” things will have a funny way of working themselves out. Remember that the one thing we do have, is complete control over letting either positive or negative thoughts dominate our minds. The conscious mind will feed on either negative or positive and with enough emotion pass it on to the subconscious where we create our realities. So try and let go of the anger and know it’s harmful for not only your well being but all that surround you. Wake up grateful for what you do have. Time will heal all wounds friends.
My thoughts are with you all.
Ryan Phillips