I’m really blessed, my parents have been married for over 40 years. My Dad was only 22 and my mom 20 when they got married. Well times have changed a lot since the baby boomer generation and it’ very apparent. Divorce rates are higher than ever and it’s sad to see and hear that a lot of marriages and relationships aren’t working like they used too. Over the past year especially I’ve been really aware of the ones that do work and why! First there’s a lot that goes into the whole attraction process in the first place. There’s the obvious physical connection which is purely biological. Then there’s patience for one another that needs to really be taken into consideration, it’s a must. You have to want to spend “quality” time with your partner.
LOVE is also a big word that is probably the most over used word in the dictionary that isn’t used with intension and feeling! If you expect your relationship to work out and be long and fulfilling there needs to be unconditional LOVE and understanding. I see the people that are the most happy and fulfilled with their mate and not only are they lovers but best friend as well. They bring out the very best in one another and support each other in all aspects of life. This is an important thing to consider before getting hitched in the first place. If you don’t bring out the very best in each other what’s the point? You can save a long process of upsetting time in your life if you just choose the right soulmate and don’t just settle. So many people get married for the wrong reasons, then it’s not only them that suffers but kids in a lot of cases as well.
Everyone in life deserves to be happy! It’s unfortunate that along the way in the relationships that it’s always negative emotions that push one of the people involved away. Be it jealousy or just trying to change the person into someone he or she isn’t. I hear so many people say they feel like they are walking on eggs shells around their significant other, that’s not cool. People it’s my suggestion that you remember why you fell for that person in the first place everyday! Not every relationship is going to be exactly the way you want it, but it can get pretty darn close if the two of you are on the same level. It’s all about growth and communication, respect, loyalty and true LOVE! My hat goes off to all the great relationships that work, I salute you!
It’s my desire for everyone to be happy and fulfilled emotionally and physically, it’s all available to everyone if we don’t force it. Look around you at the ones that work and take some mental notes as to why. It’s all about choices. And the choices we make are going to effect us no matter what, so make the ones that make sense and feel right. Use your intuition you are blessed with….
BRING OUT THE BEST IN EACH OTHER. -Ryan