SETTING BOUNDARIES

 You know it’s a strange phenomena that the more people I meet from all walks off life, different countries and vocations….how very similar we all are, but how it’s peoples habits and will power that make them or break them! Recently I met a really awesome person who I saw so much potential in. The person told me all the things I “wanted, and needed to hear.” My emotions were on super drive from a recent mission to SE Asia, being exposed to situations of love and sorrow. I’m not too big of man to say I felt on the broken side. Yet so grateful for the experience and the wonderful spirits I met along the journey. I had no clue that I would be affected by someone else who had dealt with childhood issues and a wounded heart from abandonment. I kept telling myself to create that emotional wall around myself so my shell could be harder to the finer emotions that always find a way to penetrate my soul. To think I went years without shedding a tear, and that’s when I was going through the most pain in my life. The point of no return is when we don’t set our boundaries. When we do we have more power and no exactly where we stand with people. Setting boundaries is something I need to work on. I’ve been the poster child for being a “yes” man so many times because I want to please everyone. Then what happens when that person let’s themselves down? Our walls are down, the emotions are hitting hard and pain can come driving in so easy that it takes over from lack of better reason. Whoever “they” say to just be strong and be true to yourself and your core beliefs are very right. But it takes courage to stay locked tight in your own convictions when you see others making mistakes and poor choices. I think back to when I was younger how hard it must have been for people to watch me throw it all away. So I sit and write, I accept as best I can when things aren’t flowing the way I intend. I know I can’t sit idle for too long or my intellect will take over from my heart. We have to do what’s right for ourselves because if we can’t be strong yet understanding we’re of no use to others. Today is a day to be full of gratitude for what we do have and one thing I know I will do… is breath , focus and let go…