If the world we live in could free itself of some of the judgements we place on people, world issues and religion, it would be an environment that we could feel more free to be our true selves. We’ve all been guilty of these traits at certain times in our lives and it’s usually when things aren’t going as we want them to be. Judgeing people on a surface level is very sad actually beacuse in doing so, we are actually mirrioring those same judgements within ourselves. Take me for an example, I have some fairly large tattoo’s, now at first glance without knowing what those tats represent an individual might assume me to be a certain way. I’ve had many people once they see what my tattoo’s represent which are love and happiness, say “wow Ryan your nothing like the person we percieved you to be when I first saw you.”
Just imagine how many times some of us have passed judgement on others and in turn maybe missed a great chance to connect with someone really special. That’s why I find so many people have a guard or wall that they put up because they feel they have to project a certain image to society and our peers. When I was younger in my teens and into my late twenties I was always acting off trying to make an identity for myself. Alot of it had to do with materialism, such as having nice cars and expensive clothes. I felt it made me more of a man and more attractive to women if I showed my success on a surface level. I can’t dwell on the past but I was withholding from the world my true self, which is just a normal guy that desires love and great relationships with people. Don’t get me wrong, it’s more than ok to desire and have really nice material things in life that we can enjoy and share with others. But showing off and defining yourself through “things” is something that usually leaves a person in conflict with the true self. That’s the ego inside or inner voice that says we have to be a certain way to be accepted.
Gossip is pure poison, I try and catch myself everytime I feel the need to make a negitive coment about someone when their not around. Also when someone is talking about another they usually are disatisfied with their own lives so they feel the need to pick appart others. It’s important to see all people as constant works in progress. We all make so called mistakes, even the biggest stars that are in the public eye get ridiculed by the media and slammed for thier actions. In most cases we don’t even know the full story. Try focussing on being the best you can, and controling only your thoughts. If you don’t have anything nice to say about someone refrain and concentrate on the positive aspects of that person. I used to listen to a lot of gossip in my life and feed into it. Which in turn brought only more gossip into my life. Now I say ” can we not talk about others” If one of my friends or associates has something negitive to say about someone else. It’s the people that are talking poorly about others that you have to worry about the most. if they are making coments of a negitive nature about someone behind their back, what are they saying about you when your not around. It’s something we can all be concious about and in turn better our lives and the lives of everyone that comes into contact with us.
We don’t know the reasons why people are acting a certain way. They could be sick or had a big fight with a spouse, maybe their kids are acting off and high emotions are making them really unhappy. So be easy on yourself and others and enjoy that which is good within, make an effort to not react and jugde and see the improovement unfold in your life. For all you parents out there it’s important to instill these values to our children, kids are like sponges and pick up on the traits of their parents. My daughter Sadie is a very special little girl, at the age of 12 she is seeing life in a whole new way. It’s very exciting to see her for the beautiful person she is inside and out. I have to give her mother Andi so much of the credit, as we don’t have the ideal situation. Andi and Sadie live thousands of miles away from me in Kansas. But we both love and care for our little angel more than anything in the world. We only want the best for her and it shows. She has awesome manners and loves everyone for who they are. I’m so proud of her and her mom. We can learn a lot from our kids as well. Life is fun, and it’s what we make of it.
Peace Ry.