I´ve been in Ibiza Spain now for a week and I was very blessed to meet so many amazing people from all over the world, the vibe was awesome and it´s recognized as the biggest party destination in the world with music to die for. I felt very spiritually connected as the sound vibrations rushed through my being. One of the best dj´s I heard was at party at a supper club called Novum Ibiza. His name was Victor Simonelli. He´s from New York and he has amazing talent that really touched my inner spirit. The fact that I had some really great conversation with him and saw how much class he had made my respect for him multiply. Over the course of the week it was obviously apparent that sex was on the mind of the majority of people as well. How could this fact be denied with all the sexy house music and beautiful people on the island. If you were coming here for sex it was easily available.
I was an on looker this time around and didn´t partake in any sexual encounters. In the past I´ve had my fair share of one night stands and I´m not coming down on people that partake in that experience. But my personal experience with the one night stand is usually one that left me feeling quite empty and awkward after the deed had been done! now there’s a lot of people that meet their soul mate that day or night and have the most amazing sexual experience where the connection is blossomed into a long term relationship or even marriage. For me I´ve found that in giving it some time after meeting a women is what makes it all worth while. Connecting on a soul level is something that I find both invigorating and powerful at the same time. So if any of my old hockey teamates are reading this, Yeah it´s the same Ryan I´ve just changed my views a bit. I actually get off on stimulating conversation and if that leads into physical escalation great, but as far as getting down and dirty I´m a ¨waiter¨ now.
I think it´s a special thing to respect your body and soul. And having a mutual respect for the opposite sex is gives you a better outlook on what´s to come. If the chemistry is there then by all means you folks have my blessings. But rushing into things and using someone for the moment and a quick orgasm could screw up the possibilities for something really special in the future. At the end of the day we are animals and we´re placed on this planet to pro create and make babies, it´s programed into our genetic code. It´s no secret that most one nighters happen on nights when booze and drugs are in the mix and the mind is distorted. I´ve found myself in situations in the past where I´ve woken up beside a girl the next morning fully knowing that we went all the way with all forms of clouded judgment in the way. Sex is a beautiful thing and one of the most powerful emotions known to man, but it´s meant to be felt. Theres nothing better than sex with someone you care about where both people know whats going on and can remember the great experience.
I don´t know how many times I´ve heard it from male and female friends ¨I´m such an idiot, I slept with him or her¨ And then the fact is in most cases they never talk again. But hey if that’s what your into I´m only giving my opinion from years of experience. And if your going to get down, for heavens sake boys make sure you wrap up and be safe for the sake of both individuals. I´m just looking out for all you guys and want you to all love yourself. I know it´s tough boys when the head between your legs can be real loud and do a lot of talking. And the sad reality is that people like to run their mouths and talk. It sucks when you hear about people being labeled a ¨slut¨ or a ¨whore¨. So do what you feel is right in your heart and enjoy life and try and respect the beauty inside and out.
All the very best in sex
Ryan