At one time or another this is a human condition that effects the best of us. I realize now that I´ve taken a long look at the broader, inner part of myself and who I truly am that it has been the downfall of everything I wanted to accomplish and didn´t. We live in a world where marketing tactics in magazine ads, movies and commercials smack everyone in the face on the way we´re supposed to look, or what we´re supposed to drive ect…It´s especially tough for young people that are trying to make an identity for themselves in the world. So much emphasis is put on the way our bodies are supposed to look like. When people look in the mirror and see that they don´t match up so to speak to some of these magazine ads, people in music videos or sports stars we try and emulate it gives us a false sense of self and brings on insecurity in many cases. I find this to be even tougher for women. My heart goes out to women these days that feel they have to have the ¨PERFECT¨ body. I´m here to tell you that we are all perfect just they way we are.
They most amazing thing in the world is that there is only one you! And no amount of money in the world can replicate an exact model. I´m not coming down on marketing concepts that are trying to sell their product, but in most cases most of the models have had reinforcements made from air brushing and photo shops. Don´t get me wrong either when I say that outer beauty is stunning. But beauty shines through the inner energy of the person. It´s an amazing outlook on life and confidence that can overcome insecurity. If you are one of a huge percentage of people that suffer from this condition my advice is to stop and love yourself just the way you are. You are meant to live a life full of happiness and wear the clothes that make you comfortable. Heck, some of my favorite places to shop are vintage stores. If you are struggling with weight issues or some other forms of physical ailment it´s important to block out negativity and opinions.
I know a lot of times insecurity stems from when we were kids. Yep, kids can be cruel sometimes alright! That’s why it´s important to teach our kids that everyone is different for a reason and we all bring different talents, ideas and beauty in all kinds of forms into the world. That´s what makes living life so exciting. I love meeting people from all over the world and trying to understand their culture and background. It´s my desire that this world will be one free of judgment and racism one day and we can all unite harmoniously and co create with others on a positive scale. I don´t think that’s far off if we all strive to be the best we can be. That means we need to treat every human being we come across the same as we expect to be treated. I don´t know about you, but I love making others feel good because seeing someone happy bounces right back on me and gives me immense pleasure.
Let´s talk about how to overcome insecurity. My opinion is that self confidence can be tough to oneself. If someone is looking down on you it´s them that has the issue within themselves. It´s really easy to flip the switches on that, no matter how much that person hurts you to send them love through your heart because they are the ones that are sick unfortunately. Hold your head high when you walk into a room . Not snobby or cocky, Christ that was me a few years back at times and it got me no where and made me feel empty. Smile when you walk into a room and let your inner energy do the talking. You can literally send out good vibrations through your positive thoughts that will impact people that surround you. Freedom to be yourself is something that is every ones right on this planet, and as long as your not hurting anyone and bringing joy to others by being you, it´s you that will reap the rewards. I know the work place can be full of gossip and drama at times. Rising above all that and not feeding into the bullshit will set you apart from others and people of clout will notice that your action speaks louder than words.
There´s a lot of really positive music out there these days that inspire people to let go of insecurities, Lady Gaga and Katy Perry to name a few. And for those of you that are gay and having a tough time with it and expressing who you really are, let loose and be you. I have a lot of amazing gay friends that are some of the most beautiful sensitive beings I´ve ever met. We are all people in this world, so no matter how much money we have, what we look like or what occupation we hold, the moment we all unite as one and let go of judgments this world will be even more beautiful.
LOVE YOURSELF JUST THE WAY YOU ARE
RYAN
